Mind Over Matrimony? New Book Tells Us That the Romantic Heart is Ruled by Pre-Programming Since Birth

KANSAS CITY, Mo., Feb. 13 /PRNewswire-USNewswire/ -- With Valentine's Day here, thoughts turn to the laws of attraction and the pursuit of love... and the inevitable fall off that romantic cliff into certain relationship failure.

Huh? According to a new book making its debut today, that's exactly where our most intimate relationships are headed.

The Medulla Obligation: Why We Love, by M.T. Kelson, offers readers a look at why we do what we do in the name of love. In his book, Kelson delves into why loving, intimate relationships can often turn sour, with foolish and even negative behaviors working toward the relationship's end.

"Have you ever wondered 'why did I do that?' or 'why didn't I see that coming?' after your dreams were devastated and an intimate relationship suddenly ended?" asks Kelson, who calculates that 90% of our intimate relationships fail.

Kelson likens the motivations to seek and establish -- then inadvertently destroy -- such relationships to impulses from the Medulla Oblongata, an area of the human brainstem that controls such functions a heart rate, blood pressure -- even vomiting. Much like the Medulla Oblongata, Kelson says our preprogrammed behaviors -- ones we were born with and have had reinforced from infancy throughout our lives -- control our most intimate personal relationships.

Our bodies are born with natural survival instincts, he explains. Just as the medulla oblongata sends commands for the rhythms of heartbeat and breathing, our early survival skills are the foundation for our early relationships. Consider how our early crying skills quickly transition to tools of manipulation, says Kelson. In loving, adult relationships, when those preprogrammed survival rhythms are "out of whack" with what it really takes to make a relationship survive, unions often fail, he concludes.

"Unfortunately, each relationship that does not meet our expectations then erodes our hope, and scars our zest for life," says Kelson, who leveraged his academic study in educational psychology to make this determination.

Kelson adds, "I liken this to the seductive sirens of Greek mythology, whose songs were so alluring that sailors would crash their ships upon the island shores. Nature's siren, the Medulla Obligation, sings her song and we deliver what she seeks while we inadvertently crash our dreams into what just happened."

To order, visit http://www.MedullaObligation.com or http://www.Amazon.com.